What did I accomplish in the past 10 years? 2006 to 2016:

  1. published The Power of Manifestation (2006)
  2. published The Bohemian Life in 2007
  3. designed and taught The Power of Manifestation workshop (first time at Fox Street House)
  4. started teaching at CFU in October 2006
  5. met David Steele in October 2006
  6. wrote and published The Manifestation Workbook
  7. read all of Carlos Castaneda’s books in 2007
  8. spent a week with Tom in England in the summer of 2008
  9. wrote Sorceress of Needle Hamlet
  10. wrote Legend of the Fyeriders
  11. wrote Magical Art of Seduction
  12. wrote VR
  13. wrote and published In the Magic Flow
  14. started teaching creative writing at CFU in 2007
  15. taught workshops at CFU for 10 years
  16. lectured at the CFU UnJob Fair 2 years in a row (May 2014 and May 2015)
  17. Sarina and I spent 6 weeks in the UK in the summer of 2009
  18. spent 6 weeks hiking and camping in the summer of 2015
  19. did a year-long immersion training with Robert Gonzales (summer 2014 to summer 2015)
  20. manifested 5 years worth of NVC intensive training for free (April 2011

The Artist’s Way, Week 1: Goals Set & Met

WEEK 1: GOALS SET & MET

1) In The Artist’s Way, read “Week One: Recovering a Sense of Safety.”

2) Viewed 7 videos, one for each day of the week, for Week One.

3) For my Artist’s Date: Spent 3 days and nights camping in Frisco.

4) Wrote at least 3 morning pages in my journal every day.

5) Made an effort to go for a hike or a walk a few times this week. Would like to make it daily.

6) Finished all the work for the summer semester, completing the first year of my MFA program.

7) Completed my master’s thesis proposal and sent it to my advisor for her approval.

8) Took a Master Class on Becoming a YouTube Influencer.

9) Moved more of my things out of my storage space in Denver.

10) Paid my bills for August.

11) Manifested a new laptop computer for free.

12) I found an old list of 60 things I accomplished in the decade from July 2006 to July 2016 that was very encouraging.

13) I met needs for safety, inspiration, learning and growth, creativity, self-expression, fun & play this week.

14) I have a new online workshop based on my book In the Magic Flow available through the Rocky Mountain Compassionate Communication Network:

Power Of Authenticity

15) I have a second new online workshop based on my book The Power of Manifestation available through the Rocky Mountain Compassionate Communication Network:

Compassionate Attraction

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Journaling Can Be One Of The Best Things You Do In 2018

Young female is writing notes and planning her schedule.Journaling is so beneficial because it helps us track things that we are not normally aware of. So, if you ask yourself what drew you to the study of compassionate communication, at the core, it is a desire to expand your consciousness around the way you communicate, not just with other people, but also with yourself.

It’s a practice that we can develop for daily self-connection. However, the most difficult thing about developing a daily discipline in journaling is often the questions, Where do I start? How do I start? I have nothing to say!

So I’m going to offer a suggestion that I have learned over the years of teaching nonviolent communication in workshops, teaching creative writing, and teaching a program in unblocking creativity that combines NVC & The Artist’s Way based on the book by Julia Cameron.

When I sit down to do my daily journaling, I Have Easy Things to Put In Each Entry. I start with the basics of NVC: OFNR, otherwise known as Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests. So I simply start with the observations — Who? What? Where? When? Why? and How?

Then I move on to what I am feeling. Then I consider needs met and needs unmet. Then I check to do if there are any things I’d like to do that day to meet needs.

Here are some other suggestions:

Just a list of things I did that day.

What did I feel during the day?

What am I grateful for? List maybe 3 things.

What challenged me today?

How did I deal with that challenge?

What did I savor on this day?

If you’re longing to learn more about compassionate communication and the fundamentals, RMCCN has a 5-week workshop starting in February. For more information, check this link to The Art of Compassion. We hope to see you there!

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Stalking Yourself & Hunting Power

Destiny as a Knight Don Juan Matus taught us that a warrior holds all possibilities in her mind and then chooses to believe and acts on that belief. We are doing that all the time whether we are conscious of it or not. Fortunately there are ways to become more aware of our core limiting beliefs and the stories we tell ourselves. This is what don Juan called “stalking yourself,” or “hunting power.” You become like a jaguar on the trail of a river rat. The “river rat” is the core limiting belief.

As an example of this, I said prior to meeting someone for a date, “I hope that regardless of the outcome, we’ll at least become friends.” My intention was to express my interest while also releasing attachment to a specific outcome. His interpretation was something like this: “If she’s settling for friendship already, she must have low self-esteem.”

When I heard that, I felt a chuckle inside me. I am always in awe of the way two human beings can experience very different realities when the observations are the same.

As a warrior, my initial response is to take that in as information. There is no need to defend a view point. It offers an opportunity to see myself more clearly and to see myself through someone else’s eyes more clearly, and to see another person more clearly. I don’t need to decide what’s true. I can hold all possibilities in my mind at once. In this way, it allows me to “stalk myself,” to see if there is truth in what this person said. After all, if he is reflecting to me some truth that he sees, wouldn’t I rather know that? Or would I prefer to live in a deluded state?

Ultimately it’s not about choosing to believe his interpretation or mine; it’s simply about holding all possibilities at once and letting them do their alchemical work. If I “choose to believe” anything, it will likely be, “I can always open my heart to giving myself more unconditional love.” There is no right or wrong. There is nothing to defend. But we can choose to be open or choose to be closed.

In another situation, I observed my mother reacting to a request to attend my new online workshop, “Unleash Your Creativity!” which is a blending of NVC and The Artist’s Way. I want her to understand the work I do, but after 8 days and 8 short You Tube videos, she said, “I think I’m lost. I seem to be missing a lot of your daily videos. I’m trying to sort them and watch them in order and can’t.”

In the same email, she talked about how she has trouble communicating in two of her most important relationships. I suspect the reason she can’t “sort them and watch them,” and is considering dropping out of the workshop, is because it’s leading her into an Initiation, a Transformation, and that scares the crap out of her.

She’s a a trained mathematician, philosopher, and computer scientist who worked for Martin Marietta for 10 years, raised two small children on her own, overcame alcoholism, did two stints in the Peace Corp, hiked the Continental Divide trail, wrote and published two hiking guides, which are still used to this day, hikes the Colorado Trail every summer, and I could list many other significant accomplishments, yet she’s telling me she can’t sort 8 videos and watch them in order.

When she wants to through-hike a trail, she is phenomenally capable and competent. It’s simply a choice.

Without rejecting anything off-hand, we can look deeply at what we choose to tell ourselves. We can look deeply at what we choose to do.

That is how we stalk ourselves, stalk our river rats, and hunt power.

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Integrating the Elements of Fire & Ice

Thisfire_and_ice_goddess_by_forevershining blog post is a companion to my video about Saturn in Capricorn, which occurs tonight at 9:49pm Mountain Time. I’ve been looking forward to this moment for a long time. In some sense I’ve been looking forward to it for about 30 years since the last time Saturn was in Capricorn. Its total transit in a sign lasts about 2.5 to 3 years, and it takes approximately 29 years to move completely around the Zodiac. In my opinion, Saturn is at his best when he is in Capricorn because Capricorn is his domicile. It is the location in which Saturn is best able to express his energy.

Saturn in Capricorn is going to be all about Integration & Alignment. I’ll discuss this in more detail in my video, but for this blog post, I want to focus on one specific aspect that I see, which is Integrating the Elements of Fire & Ice. I want to explore what that means.

First of all, I want to make clear that I come from a relatively “magical” perspective, but I want to explain what that means since many people may have preconceptions about what the word “magical” actually means.

The word “magical” has similar root meanings and origins to the words “mage,” “imagine,” “image,” “imagination,” “imagery,” etc. But what many people don’t understand is that the root meaning of the word “mage” is “make”. It means “to make”. A mage is simply someone who “makes” something. In a sense there is absolutely nothing magical about it… in terms of the meaning that the word conjures up for most people today. wizard-staff-female-mage

So how did the simple word and concept of making something become so mystical and imbued with other-worldliness? How did it become aligned with the idea of the supernatural?

Maybe that’s because in truth there is something extraordinary and misunderstand about what it means to make things, either making objects, or making things happen. So on one level, it’s not mystical, supernatural, or other-worldly at all, but on another level it is.

I would suggest that perhaps by imbuing it with mystical, supernatural, and other-worldly powers, it was a way for certain people to maintain power and not share it with the ordinary, common masses. Sound familiar?

But what if we, the “ordinary” people, weren’t afraid of our own power? What if we weren’t afraid to truly “make” things, to “manifest” things, to be creators? What if we were willing to embrace our own magical powers without shame or fear?

So, without the shame and fear that some might equate to the use of “magic,” (now that you understand what it really means), I am going to use the language of magic.

Certain mages, spiritual knights, and shamans specialize in spells of a specific element, such as Lightning, Fire, or Ice. Ultimately all elements need to be integrated to fully actualize one’s power, but let’s start with two for now: Fire & Ice.

If you want to unlock your ultimate magical power and then integrate it into your own being, your own life, your relationships, your community, and eventually into your society, you’ll need to understand the basic concepts of Alchemy. deepwood_librarian_by_carolina_eade

The basic idea of Alchemy is that all of us have “lead” within us. The lead is the clumped, repressed, unprocessed energy that is trapped in our beings. It’s the pain, the woundedness, the fear, anger, shame, anything that we can’t bear to look at, feel, acknowledge, or own. That is also known as the Shadow. Every human being has a Shadow. It is impossible to eliminate the Shadow.

Let me put it this way: Humans are the integration of Light and Shadow. We are the living rainbow. We channel the Light and Shadow energies and we integrate them. When the system is functioning at its highest level, there is complete integration. But when the Shadow has not been integrated, the energy becomes clumped and it clogs up the system so that the energy can not flow freely.

Ironically, the more energy is clumped and clogging up the flow of energy, the more it actually depletes us of energy and power. It leaks energy and power, like a house with shoddy construction.

So what I’m suggesting here is an Alchemical process called Integration. Because I’m using the language and imagery of Alchemy, I need to explain a few things so that you can understand the basics of Alchemy. It starts with what is known as the “Philosopher’s Stone.” It is the Philosopher’s Stone that allows Lead to be turned into Gold, which is basically the process of Integrating the Shadow, transmuting the Lead (the unprocessed, repressed, disowned pain, trauma, woundness, shame) into the Gold of Enlightenment in order to fully empower oneself.

The Philosopher’s Stone is simply one’s own Consciousness and Awareness. The more you polish your own Consciousness and Awareness, your own Philosopher’s Stone, the more capacity you have to integrate your Shadow. The Rainbow is where Light and Shadow meet. Female_mage_docile

The reason why I’m focusing on the elements of Fire and Ice in this particular post is because of the astrological alignments. It is they who are pointing the way.

The Fire Signs and their House Rulerships are: 1 – Aries; 5 – Leo; 9 – Sagittarius

Right now, astrologically, these three signs are highly activated. Uranus is in Aries, the North Node is in Leo, and we have a stellium in Sagittarius consisting of Mercury Rx, Venus, the Sun, and Saturn. They are making trines to both Uranus in Aries and the North Node in Leo. So the fire element is highly activated right now.

Although Capricorn is an Earth sign, it represents certain qualities of the Earth. We can understand this better when we consider the animal that represents Capricorn which is the goat. The most interesting thing about this Capricornian Goat is that it transforms. It begins as a sea goat. It swims in the deep waters of the ocean. Then it crawls onto the land and grows legs. It starts at the base, which is what we call “sea level” and it slowly climbs higher and higher until it reaches the summit of the highest mountain.

What’s interesting about that it the fact that there is water at the base (the seas and the oceans) and there is water at the summit (the snow and ice).

Fire is an element that represents inspiration. It is the Divine energy of Inspiration. It is the energy of action and creation. The Sun in Sagittarius is currently aligned with the Galactic Center. A gateway is opening for Divine Inspiration to come through for your creative expression. So embrace that Fire energy, but also understand that Fire can be destructive or creative depending on how it is expressed.

When integrated with the Icy energies of Capricorn and Saturn, you can bring that Fiery Cosmic Download through the Gateway and into physical manifestation. It is through the Integration of these energies that you become a powerful manifestor.

There is risk in wielding power, creative power. You are the tool for transmitting the Divine Inspiration and bringing it into manifestation. That’s why it’s so important to work on yourself as a transmitter for that Divine Inspiration. There is a relationship between risk, hazard, and vulnerability.

Today, Saturn is in the Fire Sign of Sagittarius, close to the heat of the Sun and trining the Chaotic Lightning Bolt, Uranium atomic energy of Uranus. It’s a powerful energy. Now we want to integrate it with the energy of cold, hard reality. Bring that fiery creative energy of Divine Inspiration through into physical manifestation. That is the lesson of Saturn moving from Sagittarius to Capricorn today.

As I mentioned above, the precise mathematical moment occurs at 9:49pm Mountain Time.

My suggestion for this moment in time is to take at least 15 minutes surrounding that particular moment for some quiet meditation, prayer, and contemplation. Turn it into a simple ritual. Light a candle. Allow yourself to sink into a quiet reverie. Call on your Higher Power. Then allow yourself to write down whatever comes into your mind. Do a timed writing for as long as you desire. Set a timer and keep your hand moving during that entire time. Do not stop. Do not censor what comes through. Just let it pour out onto the page and listen.

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