Why did Jack go on the road? Probably ’cause he split up with his wife and desperately needed a distraction. Ever feel that way?
Sure ya have. Haven’t we all?
The best way to get over a heartache is to go on an adventure. Shake things up. Because the brain wants to go back into its old ruts, running over the same old ground until the ruts turn into deep canals and the dendrites become unbreakable cables. Ever meet anyone like that? Twenty or thirty years later they’re telling the same story of how they were done wrong.
If I’ve learned anything from NVC (Non-Violent Communication) it’s that I’d rather be free than right. To be right implies that something or someone else is wrong. This imprisons us in a master-slave relationship with life. Adam and Eve were kicked out of the Garden of Eden because they ate from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, which means they began to see things as right versus wrong.
But even being expelled from the Garden of Eden can be seen as embarking on an adventure. We needn’t judge the reasons for going, or what one experiences while on the journey, or how we feel and what we learn from it.
Writing is a way of sharing the human experience. I want to know what sent you on your journey, who you were before, how you’re different now, and what you learned. While you’re on the journey, show me what you see, hear, feel, taste, and touch. Share your emotions with me through the concrete details you describe. Let me see where you are as if I were standing there myself. Let me meet the people you met as if I were in their presence myself.
Then I will know what it’s like to be you.
And I want you to tell me your story like sitting by a fire with an old friend. Invite me in to that comfortable place, engage my imagination, my emotions, my empathy by putting me in your skin and letting me live that adventure with you as if I were you.